Your browser does not support JavaScript. Please note, our website requires JavaScript to be supported.

Please contact us or click here for assistance.

Three Keys to Life beyond Pornography

Written by Dan Wobschall

Faith

Freedom will not be found in our own strength. In fact, we begin to find freedom as we recognize and acknowledge our weakness to overcome pornography’s deceptive pull. Pray daily and surrender your control to defeat sexual brokenness.

This battle is not won in isolation. We need foxhole friends to walk the battleground with us. The Bible says, “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working” (James 5:16). This is accountability defined.

A powerful tool on the road to freedom is using Covenant Eyes. It is an effective form of accountability. However, the accountability partner you choose is the linchpin to that chain. Select someone who will hold your feet, heart and soul to the fire without compromise.

Trust Christ to set you free.

Power

The power to set us free from pornography must be greater than its power to suck us into its black hole. No one possesses that power on his own, or he could just plain stop if he wanted. Therefore, every person must look outside of himself for the answer.

A person’s thinking must change. If a person keeps doing the same thing over and over, he can’t expect his circumstances and results to change. That’s the definition of insanity, according to Einstein, anyway (and he was a pretty smart guy).

Problems cannot be solved at the same level of thinking at which the problem was created. So, just how does a person attack this problem?

First, stop thinking about the very thing you’re trying to break free of. If you say over and over again, “I’m not going to think about pornography. I’m not going to think about pornography,” what are you doing? Talking to yourself about pornography, constantly.

The Holy Spirit will do the transforming in a person’s life as he bathes himself in the words of God (the Bible) and comes under the accountability and mentorship of faithful friends. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

Paul tells us what we should do to renew our minds. He writes, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things” (Philippians 4:8, emphasis added). We will become products of our own self-imposed mental environments. Choose well.

Listen to this reminder: Greater is He (Holy Spirit) who lives in you, than he (Satan) who lives in the world (1 John 4:4). We have access through prayer and submission to the very power that raised Jesus Christ from the dead. Incredible!

Healing

As we begin to focus on the truth from the Scriptures above, we will begin to experience the healing only Christ can bring. Confession, accountability software, time reading the Bible, and prayer are tools God can use to bring about healing.

Open and honest communication with your spouse (wife or husband) is a key in the healing process. While every situation is slightly different, a person cannot expect trust to heal if he or she is keeping secrets from his or her spouse.

Spouses also need to heal. Trust has been broken, and we play a significant role in rebuilding it.

Men, date your wife again. This was likely an effective way to build trust when the two of you first met. Humble yourself and start again. After all, you just may be a stranger to her in emotional ways.

Trust her with your struggles, and share your successes with her. Let her inside your deepest hurts. Pour love into your wife, and it will be poured back out in greater ways.

Pain revealed is pain that can be healed. It’s true that healing can be painful and uncomfortable. In fact, expect it. Burn patients understand this in a very profound way. The more serious the burn, the more pain they experience on the way to healing. However, as healing takes place, it sometimes leaves scars.

James 5:16 says, “Confess … so that you may be healed.” We will stumble and fall along the path to freedom from pornography and on the road to healing. And when we do, we should go back to the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the source of power for the strength we need, and continue to pray for healing.

Through faith, power and healing, there is life beyond pornography. 

The journey will be tough and long, but worth every single step you take. It is by His grace and a person’s willingness to pursue sexual integrity God’s way that the road to freedom is found.

Prestonwood Support

Prestonwood has a variety of Bible Fellowships for the spiritual development of every person. No matter your age and stage of life, there’s a Bible Fellowship for you. Visit prestonwood.org/connect for more information. The Prestonwood Library, located on the second floor of the Plano Campus, provides additional resources and services to help Christians grow in faith and ministry. Visit prestonwood.org/covenanteyes for additional resources.

Used with permission: covenanteyes.com