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Considering Children

Kurt Bruner, The Center for Strong Families

Couples contemplating starting a family will be confronted with a materialistic and leisure-focused culture that dwells on the challenges more than the joys of parenthood. As a result, they are often encouraged to push family off a little longer while enjoying the perceived freedom of life before children.

What couples can lose sight of during such a cost/benefit analysis are the grand purposes God has for children within marriage. That’s why it’s important to ask yourself several pertinent questions.

QUESTION ONE: Are Children Part of Your Life’s Purpose?

“Be fruitful and multiply” was the first charge God gave His creation in the garden. While having children isn’t the only purpose for marriage, it is very closely tied to God’s original design for marriage and should not be discarded without serious, prayerful reflection.

When we raise children, we cooperate with God’s desire for a “Godly seed” (Malachi 2:15). Parenting is also the primary way most of us fulfill the call to lay our lives down for others (Philippians 2:4-8). Producing and guiding the next generation is a mission that stretches and pushes us to depend on God like few other things in life.

QUESTION TWO: Are Children a Blessing or a Burden?

In the past few years, social commentators have used words like “ankle biters” and “yard apes” to describe children and the stress they bring with them. But God calls children a blessing (Psalm 127:3-5). Even in the face of what one writer called the “bone-wearying work” of parenting, children provide the joyful reward of marital and parental love. Studies consistently find children are people’s greatest source of happiness.

QUESTION THREE: How Long Should You Wait?

Magazine covers featuring celebrities having babies well into their forties can give couples the impression they have plenty of time to start their families. Unfortunately, those images have contributed to a tragically low awareness of the fertility window God designed for women. Couples today who marry in their late twenties and then spend a couple of years getting to know each other are often surprised to find that they are already pushing past their prime fertility season when they start thinking about having kids.

QUESTION FOUR: Who is Your Provider?

Couples seeking to start their families may feel overwhelmed by a variety of concerns about being pregnant, giving birth and adjusting their marriage, budget and lifestyles. This can be a natural response because babies do change everything and push couples beyond themselves. But God is faithful. Paul told the Corinthians, “And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work” (2 Corinthians 9:8). Having children is a good work and gives couples new opportunities to see how God is able to supply what they need.


Recommended Book:

  • Start Your Family by Steve & Candice Watters

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