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Parent Report Card 

Design

As a tool to surface unique areas of need in your child and/or areas to become more intentional as a parent

Foundation

Meaningful dialogue on how your child perceives your parenting

Tools

  • Complete the attached report card on yourself, trying to assess what each child would say. Keep in mind the goal is to surface your child’s perceptions whether they are accurate or not. Two children can have entirely different opinions of the same parental patterns. Understanding a child’s perceptions of our actions helps us do a better job of meeting their unique needs.
  • Decide upon a context within which to ask your child(ren) to grade you. You might consider the day after your child brings home a school report card or progress report. Shore up your courage in order to humbly accept input that may surprise or even sting you.

Execution

  • Say: “Tonight I want you to fill out a report card that will help me understand areas I might need to ‘study’ a little harder. There are several things the Lord expects me to do as your father/mother, and I want your input on how well I am doing.”
  • Do not comment on any of the input. Thank the child and discuss the input with your spouse and/or a trusted friend who can help you create a “study plan” to strengthen the relationship with your child.

Parent Report Card

Description
Grade
Shows me he/she loves me
________
Shows concern for my feelings
________
Spends enough time with me
________
Listens to what I say
________
Gives me appropriate trust
________
Enjoys being with me
________
Is truthful with me
________
Makes the family a priority in his/her life
________
Is fair in his/her decisions
________
Gives me the right number of chores
________
Disciplines me when I deserve it
________
Admits when he/she is wrong
________
Controls his/her anger and words
________

Overall Grade

On a scale of 1–10 (10 being best) what kind of relationship do you want to have with your parent?

Considering all things, on the same scale, where are you today in your relationship with your parent?

What are 1–3 things your parent could do for you to make your relationship better than ever?

© 1999 Kurt and Olivia Bruner